HELLO AND WELCOME!
I work with individuals who are trying on different identities, whether it be sexual orientation or gender identity and expression, you deserve a safe, supportive space to explore who you are and who you want to be. You don’t have to own the role or label that other people have given you. You can be different. You can be YOU. -David Cayton
Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor APCC 2300
Clinically Supervised by Alyssa Najera, LCSW 86618
Counseling Services for LGBTQIA+ Seeking Support
Sometimes we can feel obligated to adhere to the expectations that are often so subtly (or blatantly) place upon us, by family, friends, peers, media. It may be our college of choice, career choice, athletic path, or even our gender identity, expression, or sexual orientation, but what if what you want isn't in line with what others expect for you? Then, what? Then, that's okay too. In fact, it's more than okay because you not all have the right to, but you deserve to be you.
David's personal and professional experiences have shed light on the immense need for providing a safe, supportive space for individuals of any age to explore gender or sexuality related issues, as well as family, social, relationship or occupational stressors that may come with it. A space that allows you to better understand where internal negative beliefs or thoughts stem from and how to improve them, better understand who you are (without outside noise and input from others), and find the power of your voice to better advocate for yourself and your needs.
When trying on different identities, there are several complicating factors that can potentially impact your journey to self-discovery including:
- Personal experiences
- Other people's opinions of who you are and are not
- Fear of judgement from peers or family members
- Fear of safety
- Cultural views or religious beliefs
- Household beliefs
- Community perceptions of what is acceptable and not acceptable
- Fear of loss of important friendships or relationships
These factors combined with outside stressors can also lead to
- Feelings of hopelessness
- Self doubt, low self-worth
- Depression and Anxiety
- Self harm or suicidal thoughts
- Increased use of drugs or alcohol to cope
- Withdrawal from social environments
- Avoidance of social or work related events
- Decrease in academic or work performance
- Increase in irritability or feeling on edge
- Feeling as if you're living a double life
- Difficulty maintaining healthy relationships
Many of these thoughts, symptoms, and behaviors may have developed in early adolescence during junior high or high school years. Yet, continue to either resurface periodically throughout your life or show up and stay for awhile. The good news...
THERE IS HOPE.
In your weekly therapy with David, you can expect to learn tools and skills to
- Improve your self confidence
- Find self-acceptance
- Better understand your stress and anxiety responses
- Find your voice
- Improve social relationships
- Set healthy personal and/or work boundaries
- Prioritize your own needs through self awareness, assertiveness, and communication skills
- Manage work or school related issues and stressors
- Identify healthy relationships (and manage or avoid entirely toxic relationships)
- and RECOGNIZE YOUR WORTH and IMPORTANCE IN THIS WORLD
Counseling for Professionals in High Stress and Helping Professions
Through his professional experience in Higher Education and Community Counseling, David is aware of the
- Stress and Anxiety
- Bureaucratic pressures
- Administrative pressures
- Personal conflicting feelings and
- Negative impact on your health
working in high-stress work environments and helping professions can have on you.
It's easy to cross into blurred boundaries and allow your professional role to be all encompassing. It can spill into you personal relationships, parenting, sleep and eating patterns, physical health, and especially your overall mental health.
David works with you to provide support, perspective, and skills that help you
- Better manage stress and anxiety
- Increase fatigue management
- Increase motivation and improve personal and work habits.
- Decrease depressive symptoms (that you may not even know are depression related)
- Learn how to utilize mindfulness skills to improve focus, reduce negative thinking patterns, and improve present awareness
- Improve self-care and sleep patterns
- Identify, set, and maintain healthy boundaries in your personal and professional life
Types of Treatment
David provides individual and family counseling services with children (age 8+), teens, and adults. He incorporates a combination of modalities and interventions into his treatment including, but not limited to the following:
Solution Focused Therapy (SFT)
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Play Therapy and Sand Tray activities
Prior to Small Town Counseling, David worked in a small town, rural community providing mental health services to children and adults for several years. He provided individual and family therapy, connected clients to community partners, and provided ongoing resource linkage to his clients and their families.
David also has a 2nd Master of Science in Higher Education and extensive experience working at the University level. David
- Served as Resident Director of the on-campus community at a local private university
- Served as Interim Associate Director of Housing
- Counseled and advised students on personal concerns, resident programs, institutional services
- Provided academic advising and counseling
- Served as volunteer research staff and editorial assistant on two separate research projects
- and served as Assistant Director for Student Judicial Affairs
David's years of experience in Higher Education confirmed his passion for supporting college students and ultimately led him to pursue his second Master's Degree in Counseling and Guidance, so he may continue to to support college students, but this time in a therapeutic setting.
Training and Education
Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor |APCC 2300
University of Hawai‘i at Manoa
M.A., Counselor and Guidance | 2009
The Florida State University
M.S. Higher Education | 1999
University of California at Berkeley
B.A., Psychology| 1994